First Date

Phenomenon

The first in-person meeting between two people who connected on a dating app.

What it means

The first date is the initial face-to-face meetup after matching and exchanging messages. App-era convention has shifted toward shorter, lower-stakes first dates (drinks or coffee) rather than dinner — partly because the meta-information collected from the apps is so thin that most first dates are really vibes-checks.

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