Sapiosexual

Identity

Primarily attracted to intelligence rather than physical traits.

What it means

Sapiosexual describes someone whose primary attraction is to a partner's intelligence, often more than physical traits. The term has become contested — some embrace it as a genuine identity, others critique it as either trivial or as covertly classist. Either way, it appears in dating-app bios often enough to need its own entry.

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