Stashing

Behavior

Hiding your partner from your friends, family, or social media.

What it means

Stashing is when one partner deliberately keeps the other hidden from their broader life — never introduced to friends, never appears on social media, never invited to social events. It's typically a sign that the stasher is unsure about the relationship, dating others, or married. The stashed partner often doesn't realize it's happening for a long time.

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